9th September 2015

Our journey to children part three

“Hurry up and wait” is a phrase that has become all too familiar around here. Now that the decision had been made we were excited + anxious to get started on our PGD journey. From the moment that we started we were warned that it would be a long, seemingly slow, and toiling process. Before we could begin we had to attend three appointments to discuss every angle of the journey we were about to embark on and had to sign, what seemed like, a mountain of paperwork. Once we had gotten the green light from all of the other consultants it was finally time to submit our paperwork and get added to the list, and wait.


During the waiting period we had two choices; let our patience wear thin OR enjoy the time we had without babies in the mix yet. So that we did. We’ve travelled to some amazing places like S.Africa, we’ve enjoyed our fair share of staycations, and breakfast in bed is a regular affair.

After a year and a half we were able to begin our first cycle of IVF for PGD. That consisted of a three-week period of two types of injections to stimulate follicles to grow and prepare for egg collection. I’ve now finished injections + egg collection with an outcome of 17 eggs collected. We were then informed that 16 were able to be fertilized. After a few more days of waiting we found out that 12 fertilized themselves. After another few days we were informed that 5 grew to the blastocyst stage and were able to be tested and then frozen. Two weeks and a lot of prayers later, we found out that of the five, four embryos are without CF. We made a decision at the beginning of the process to use all of the viable embryos so now we have four potential babies that await implantation, bearing in mind that after implantation we still sit at a 50/50 chance of success.

Journey to children 3-1

We both believe so strongly that God’s hand has been and is in each step along the way. We now found ourselves at another waiting period. Now we wait to schedule in time and start injections to prepare my womb for the implantation phase.

I’ve heard many say that “you’ll never be ready to have children” but after such a long process I can speak for both of us and say that we’re ready. While breakfast in bed and a quiet house is the regular simplistic pleasure that we’ve gotten used to and enjoy, (and one that we don’t take for granted) we dream of the day when we’ll welcome our own into the world. Middle of the night cries we’ll actually seem like such a sweet sound.

While this is the conclusion of the chapter for now, my dream, prayers and hope is that very soon we’ll be able to share with you our miracle ending to this journey. The outpouring of love that you have shown us has been such an encouragement to our hearts. My continued hope is that our story will reach another family who might be experiencing a similar story + decisions. When it feels like someone else has walked in your shoes, it makes a world of a difference.

  • Biana Perez

    I’ve read all three parts of your journey and I’m praying for you!! Wishing you only the best! xo, Biana –BlovedBoston

    • Thanks so much Biana – it means more than you know!

  • Sarah

    I think you are so brave to go through this and to share your story. I’m praying for you and for happy outcomes!

    • Thanks so much Sarah, it’s so appreciated!

  • So will you put in all 4 at once or do you save them and try one at a time to potentially try having four children at varying times?

    So happy for you that you’re finally on your way to having children! My husband and I have been trying for a little over a year now so I’m hoping it will happen soon for us, too 🙂

    • Hi Ashley! No, only one single embryo will be implanted each time the rest stay frozen until used. Thanks so much for your kind words, and prayers for you two as well! Sometimes it can definitely feel like such a journey — but the end goal will be totally worth it! xo

  • So exciting! I pray for the next stage of your journey and clearly He had a hand in your numbers- could you imagine if 12 grew to be blasts?! 4 sounds like a much better number 😉

    • Our thoughts exactly 😉 Thanks for your prayers!

  • Beyond excited for you two and covering you in so much prayer!!! Regardless of the outcome, God is good and you two will make the greatest parents!

    • Thanks so much Chloe, your prayers + words of encouragement mean so much!

  • Thank you so much for sharing your journey and being so open about it all. That can be scary especially when you don’t know what the outcome will be, but I know your story is already working on people’s hearts. I can’t wait to hear more of this story. You will be the best Mama ever. XOXO

    • Aww friend! Thanks so much for your sweet words! Love to you! xo

  • Wow! So courageous for sharing your story. I love the quote, “what is meant for me will never miss me and what misses me was never meant for me.” Can’t wait to hear the happy news!

    • I LOVE that quote – SO true! Thanks for your encouragement! xo

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